I ruined my marriage how can I fix it

Introduction

Marriage is an incredible experience, but it's not easy. There are times when you'll find yourself frustrated and annoyed with your spouse and want to give up on the relationship. However, if you're willing to work through these issues together as a team, there's no reason why your marriage can't be something truly special. If you feel like your marriage might be in trouble, start working on repairing it today!

See if there's someone you both can talk with who can help mediate and try to repair the relationship.

If you and your partner don't feel like you can fix things on your own, it may be time to reach out for help. There are many resources available, including couples' counselors, a mediator and even clergy members. The important thing is that both of you need to be willing to accept the advice from this other person (or people). If one of you doesn't want outside help, then it won't work. It's also important for both of you not to blame each other or point fingers when admitting fault in the breakup—even if one person feels they did nothing wrong!

Remember the positive qualities you have that brought you together.

Remember the positive qualities you have that brought you together. When you're feeling discouraged, it's easy to focus on all of the ways your relationship has gone wrong. But remember that there was once a time when you were happy with each other, even if only briefly.

Remember that everyone has their own flaws, and that no one is perfect (including yourself). It may be difficult for someone who is in denial about their actions or behaviors to admit their wrongdoing, but remember that everyone makes mistakes sometimes—even if those mistakes are small ones like forgetting an anniversary date or being late for dinner plans. Realize that people aren't perfect and forgive each other when conflicts arise within your marriage because nobody's perfect!

Remind yourself why both of these things matter: they help motivate changes in your behavior so as not to give up on this important aspect of life - finding love again after losing it once before through divorce proceedings etcetera...

Look at what motivates your spouse and bring them some of that.

Now, it's time to look at what motivates your spouse and bring them some of that. I'm going to give you an example. My wife is an artist, so she loves having people come over and show her their art work. She gets really excited when someone puts a lot of thought into making something beautiful for her. One time I saw that she had been feeling down in the dumps lately because her friends were busy with their kids and didn't have much time for hanging out anymore, so I decided to take on some extra chores around the house so she would have more time for herself without me hovering over her shoulder asking what she was doing next. Another example involves my friend who has been working all day every day for three years straight, waking up at six am every morning to go into work and then coming home late each night with no breaks throughout the day...so this particular person needs some relaxation! He loves spending time outdoors enjoying nature (he used to be an avid fisherman), so he started taking weekend trips into wooded areas where there are no distractions from technology or other people around him just him relaxing while enjoying nature!

Let your spouse know you are aware of how you've changed, and that you want to change back.

• Tell your spouse how sorry you are for changing.

• Explain that, while you don't know how to fix the situation, you do want to fix it.

• Let them know that their feelings and opinions matter to you, and let them know what they can do to help facilitate a change in your behavior. For example: “I’ve been working hard on remaining patient when we argue since our fight last week. It would mean a lot if we had more time together without distractions like televisions or phones around so that we can talk about things calmly instead of fighting back and forth all day long like we have been doing lately."

Spend some time thinking about what originally attracted your spouse to you, and take steps to create a new relationship based on those things.

Spending some time thinking about what originally attracted your spouse to you, and taking steps to create a new relationship based on those things, can help both of you get back on track.

Spend some time thinking about why you fell in love with your spouse. What did they do that made them attractive? Were there things that made them different from other people? If so, think about the ways in which these qualities could be recreated in order to create a new, more fulfilling relationship for both of you. If not, think about what might make them attractive again if it isn't possible for them to become more likeable as an individual or person.

Listen to your spouse and show them that you are listening by responding in ways that demonstrate their perspective is understood, not just their words.

• Listen to your spouse and show them that you are listening by responding in ways that demonstrate their perspective is understood, not just their words.

• Don't interrupt your spouse when they are talking to you about something important or difficult for them. They may need the time to express themselves fully before getting a response from you, so be patient and let them finish what they want to say before stepping in with questions or comments of your own (unless there's actually an emergency)

• Don't argue with your partner—even if they're wrong! Instead: ask questions like "How would we solve this problem?" or "What could we do differently next time?" If possible try making suggestions together instead of bringing up past mistakes that have caused problems between the two of us

Have an open heart when speaking about the problems within your marriage and be able to listen and understand why these issues rise up within the relationship.

To be able to work on a problem, you must first understand it. This means having an open heart when speaking about the problems within your marriage and being able to listen and understand why these issues rise up within the relationship. When you can identify with how your spouse is feeling, it becomes easier for them to trust that you're trying to make things better for both of you.

Marriage can be a tough road, but it is worth working through issues.

Marriage is a partnership and a journey, but it's not easy. You will have moments of doubt, frustration, and anger. You may even feel as though it's impossible to move forward or revisit the past. But if you work together and are committed to your marriage, then you can repair any damage done by divorce or separation.

Conclusion

Remember, there are no shortcuts to rebuilding trust in a relationship. You must be willing to put in the work and do the things that will help you heal from this painful experience. It might seem like your marriage is beyond repair right now, but if you keep working on it with patience and perseverance, then eventually things will get better again!