Introduction

Marriage counselling is a process that requires two people to be committed to working together and making changes. If you're heading into marriage counselling and one of you isn't willing to make the effort, then it's probably not going to work. However, there are times when even the most committed couples might decide that marriage counselling isn't the right path for them after all.

You have to be committed to marriage counselling in order for it to work, but when is it time to stop going?

You have to be committed to marriage counselling in order for it to work, but when is it time to stop going?

The answer depends on how much progress you and your partner are making. If you’re not making any progress, it’s time to re-evaluate whether or not you should continue with therapy.

If the two of you are making some progress but decide that marriage counselling is too expensive or inconvenient, then I recommend that you try something else. Marriage counselling can help make a big difference in your relationship if both parties are willing and open-minded enough to participate in the process and make changes that will benefit both partners.

Look at what you accomplished.

When you feel that your relationship has made some progress, look at the goals you set for yourself and see how you have progressed since then. If there is any doubt about whether or not a particular issue has been resolved, talk with your partner about it. If the issue still exists, continue to do more work on it until you are both satisfied with the outcome of your work together. You may need to have several conversations before reaching this point, but if there is still something unresolved between the two of you after many hours of work together, consider ending marriage counselling sessions early.

Have you made progress on your goals?

The next step is to evaluate whether the marriage counselling is still beneficial. If it is, then you can continue with your same counselor. If not, then you may need to find a new one.

If your goal has been met and you have reached the end of your counselling time, then there are other options for you both as individuals and as a couple that can help maintain that progress made during marriage counseling sessions. You may want to consider going into individual therapy or couples therapy on a regular basis either with or without your spouse present so that each person can explore any unresolved issues from within their own mindsets and relationships outside of marriage itself.

Are you getting results?

Another way to figure out if your marriage counselling is working is to consider the results. Have you made progress toward your goals? How can you tell? Ideally, you should be able to point to specific things that have changed for the better. If not, then it’s time for a reality check: maybe it’s time for another approach.

Is your counselor helping you make progress on your goals?

It’s important to know that while some counselors may be able to help you make progress on your goals, not all of them can. In fact, some are actually more likely than others to do the opposite. If your counselor isn’t helping you make progress on your goals and instead is merely telling you what other people have told him or her about what he or she thinks your problems are (i.e., “You need to stop worrying so much!”), it might be time to find a new counselor.

It’s not their fault if they aren't helping: It's yours for staying with them!

Are you being respectful and honest with each other?

Honesty is a cornerstone of marriage counselling. It's important for you and your spouse to be honest with yourself about what's going on in the relationship, as well as with each other. Honesty doesn't mean that you have to air all of your dirty laundry, but it does mean that if there are things bothering you, then they need to be addressed. The counsellor should help both parties communicate their feelings in an effective manner and try not to interrupt them while they're speaking so they feel heard and respected. Being respectful goes hand-in-hand with honesty because being disrespectful towards your partner may cause them not to open up about their feelings or concerns in the future which could lead towards further problems within the relationship overall

Do you feel better connected with your spouse?

• Do you feel better connected with your spouse?

The goal of marriage counselling is to help couples build a healthy relationship and this is done by increasing the level of emotional intimacy between them. According to Drs. John and Julie Gottman, if there are problems in a marriage, they're usually related to two areas: emotion and communication. And since one of the main goals of marriage counselling is to increase intimacy between partners (emotionally), it's important that you notice a change in how connected you feel with your partner after each session.

• Have you talked about things that were difficult for either of you before?

Talking about tough subjects isn’t easy but it's an important part of building trust and establishing an open dialogue between spouses so that they can work through issues together rather than holding onto them or going off on their own like the hurt party did in our story above!

Are you and your spouse learning new skills and ways of relating to one another?

When you and your spouse are learning new skills and ways of relating to one another, it’s more likely that the counselling will have a positive effect.

Effective communication is an important part of any relationship. If you can communicate effectively with each other, that can help solve many problems in your marriage. It’s not always easy to talk about what’s bothering someone or what they want out of life, but being able to do this builds trust between both partners. If a couple starts being honest with each other, then they will be able to understand each other better as people and learn how best how to resolve conflicts together instead of fighting about them constantly over time

Do things still feel tense, stressful or negative at home?

Do things still feel tense, stressful or negative at home?

If you’re still feeling tension, stress and negativity at home, then it is time to stop going. The fact that you’re thinking about breaking up or getting divorced shows that marriage counselling isn’t working for you. You may want to consider other options such as seeking professional help from a psychologist or psychiatrist if you need assistance with your feelings towards the relationship. If a couple is in strong agreement about ending their marriage but one partner wants to stay because they are worried about what people will think of them, then it would be better not to go back together again just so they can fit with society's expectations.

Marriage counselling will only help if both people are willing to work at it.

Marriage counselling will only help if both people are willing to work at it. If you think that your relationship might be worth saving, but your partner doesn't want to go, then this is not a good sign. You need to be able to talk about the issues and be willing to change them in order for counselling to work. If you are going through marriage counselling and find that nothing seems to change or improve, then stop going.

Conclusion

Marriage counselling can be a great tool for improving your relationship and getting to the root of the problems that are causing conflict in your marriage. But it’s only effective if both people are committed to working on their issues and seeing things through. If you’ve been going to therapy for a while now but haven’t seen any positive results, then maybe it’s time to give up on this method of healing and seek other options such as individual therapy or couple's retreats instead.