How to not be jealous of the other woman

Introduction

Jealousy is a natural human emotion that can be triggered by many things. It can occur in romantic relationships or even with your friends. Jealousy is normal, but it doesn't mean you should give into the feeling and act on it. Lets look at some ways to get on top of the green eyed monster.

Stop thinking of her as "the other woman."

This is a tough one, but it's important to remember that the other woman is not "the other woman," she is just another person. You can choose to treat her as an enemy or you can choose to treat her as a friend. You may not be friends with the other woman, but you don't have to be enemies either.

She has her own life and her own issues and concerns just like everyone else does. She has feelings too! She's not out to get you or steal your man; she's probably just looking for love in all the wrong places at the moment (and maybe you're in those wrong places).

Try to remember — she's not perfect.

It's important to remember that the other woman isn't perfect. She has flaws, just like you do, and she will make mistakes. She'll also have a past, which might include cheating on her boyfriend/husband at some point in her life as well. A lot of people mess up in relationships and marriage — it's not just you!

Remembering all this can help reduce your jealousy toward 'the other woman' because it can be hard to keep reminding yourself that she’s not better than you because she hasn’t experienced all of the things that happened to YOU during YOUR relationship with YOUR partner or husband (or wife).

The other woman is not that great.

The first step to not being jealous of the other woman is to remember she is just a person. She has flaws, like you do and everyone else does. She isn't perfect and she's not here to be your competition or your rival. So why waste time being jealous of her? You could spend that time doing something productive, like going out with your friends or spending more time with your family and loved ones who love you for who you are.

You have your own gifts and talents, and you are not inferior to her or anyone else in any way.

• You are not inferior to her or anyone else in any way.

• You have your own gifts and talents, and you are not inferior to her or anyone else in any way.

• You are not the other woman’s partner, family member, friend or co-worker—you are a separate person who deserves respect and support from yourself and others!

• Be grateful for all that you have, instead of dwelling on what other people don’t have (or may even be taking advantage of).

Think about the kind of life she's going to have.

If you find yourself in an emotionally complicated relationship, it's important to be aware of the fact that being the other woman can potentially lead to many unhappy years in your life. The reason for this is simple: the other woman will never be happy with her life, no matter how much she tries to make herself believe she is.

The reality is that she will always feel like a second-class citizen and this feeling will only get worse as time goes by. She'll begin to see herself as someone who doesn't deserve a real relationship or family because of what she's done and who she's become. In addition, since being with someone else's significant other isn't exactly condoned by society at large (and rightly so), all her friends and family members will likely shun her or refuse to talk about it at all—leaving her alone with little support network outside of whomever she chooses as her companion on this journey through deception and discontentment.

Remember the relationship you have with your partner is different.

• Focus on the positive aspects of your relationship.

• Remember that you are not the other woman.

• Remember that there is no reason to be jealous of what she has—she may have more money or a more exciting job, but these things don’t make her happier than you are in your relationship. You also shouldn’t feel bad if you have less money than her either—you can still be happy without it!

• Do not compete with anyone else for your partner's attention; instead focus on being a good person who does good things for others, so when someone else tries to take him away from you he will see how great of a person he has found in yourself and want nothing more than to stay with you forever!

Don't minimize what your partner did.

• Don't minimize what your partner did.

• Don't blame yourself for what happened, or tell yourself it's no big deal because it happened to someone else.

• Don't think that because you are not the other woman that it doesn't matter.

Communicate with your partner about how you feel and how you want to move forward.

The first step in overcoming jealousy of an ex-girlfriend or a new acquaintance is to talk about it. You need to be honest with your partner about how you feel, and what you want from them going forward.

You’re not going to be able to work through your jealousy if he doesn’t know what's eating away at you. Your partner needs to know that he can trust you again, which means being open and willing to compromise once more. You might have been the one who cheated on him, but don't assume that means he will never do anything wrong again—it's important for both partners to understand that they need each other and want each other in order for this relationship (or friendship) to work out in the long run.

When learning how not to be jealous of the other woman, it's important to remember that she's just a person, too.

When learning how not to be jealous of the other woman, it's important to remember that she's just a person, too. You're probably going through a rough time in your relationship and you don't want to think about another woman stealing away your partner. But if you give her a face and an identity, it might help put things into perspective for you.

She has feelings, but they aren't all that different from yours. She might be sad or hurt or angry over how things ended with him; maybe he told her he loved her when he didn't mean it; maybe they were together for years before he cheated on her with you (or vice versa). Whatever happened between them is probably something you can relate to: maybe they broke up because they wanted different things in life or wanted different lifestyles altogether; maybe one of them cheated on the other; maybe there was infidelity involved somewhere along the way...

You cannot change it. He cannot change it.

We do not have control over what our partners do. We cannot control how they feel about it, and we can’t change the past. You can only change your future by focusing on what you do have and what you can control.

These are some basic techniques that will help you deal with jealousy:

• Be honest about what is happening in your life—even if it includes feeling jealous or being worried about something that may never happen

• Give yourself permission to be angry with yourself or your partner for something that has already happened but no longer has any power over either of you

When you feel yourself slipping into jealous thoughts, try to focus on something completely unrelated to the situation; meditation; take deep breaths; go do something else entirely different than whatever you were doing at the time.

When you feel yourself slipping into jealous thoughts, try to focus on something completely unrelated to the situation; meditation; take deep breaths; go do something else entirely different than whatever you were doing at the time.

This might sound like a simple solution and it is, but it’s also very effective. If you have trouble doing this on your own, ask a loved one or friend for help as they may be able to point out that jealousy is not an emotion you want to experience.

It's hard but you can stop being jealous of the other woman by focusing on what you do have and what you can control

• Focus on your own life. Don't dwell on what the other woman has, or how her relationship with your partner started. If you're not happy in your own relationship, focus on improving it instead of worrying about other people's relationships.

• Don't worry about the future. Trying to predict what will happen between your partner and his/her new flame is a waste of time; there are too many variables and unknowns for this to be productive (and even if you do come up with a good prediction, it may still change). Focus instead on enjoying today and being as happy as possible right now!

• Don't try to control things that are outside of your control—you can only change yourself!

Conclusion

If you’re reading this and thinking, “I am that woman,” don’t despair! You can change the jealous thoughts and feelings that you have. You just need to start by acknowledging that they exist, which is an important first step. Then, practice some of the techniques we presented above. Find your own ways to distract yourself from those negative thoughts—whether it’s meditating or going on a walk in nature—and don't forget to take deep breaths when things get tough!