Should I end my relationship? How to tell if its time to end things

Introduction

No one wants to end a relationship, but sometimes it's just not working out. Maybe you've reached that point and are wondering if it's time to break up. Here are some ways to know if you should end things:

Examine your own baggage

If you find that you are the one who is always trying to fix things, it's time to take a step back and examine your own baggage. You need to examine why you feel like you have to be responsible for fixing everything about the relationship, including their actions, emotions and decisions. If that is the case then consider why this has become such an issue in your life.

If, on the other hand, you find that you are trying to fix things because you think that is what is expected of you, then it's time to take a step back and examine your own baggage. You need to examine why you feel like being responsible for everything in life is such an important role for you.

Know when it's time to let go

Sometimes, we feel that there's no way out of our relationships with our parents. We think that they will always behave in the same way and we cannot change them. But this can be a problem because if you don't want to change your parents, then why are you still in a relationship with them?

You should know when it is time to let go of your relationship with your parents and find someone who will love you for who you are without trying to change who you are. And if this means letting go of the only family members you have left or leaving home altogether, then so be it! You need not sacrifice yourself for anyone else's happiness or well-being!

You need to think about what's best for you. You need to be able to love yourself and respect your needs above all others' desires. You need to stand up for yourself at all times, because if you don't do this now, then when will you?

Don't make decisions out of guilt or obligation.

Don't make decisions out of guilt or obligation.

If you've been with your partner for a long time, it might seem like the right thing to do—but it's not always the best course of action. It can be tempting to stay in an unhealthy relationship because you feel compelled to help them or keep them around because they're family or friends. Even if they aren't family members and aren't close friends, though, don't feel obligated to give them money when they ask for it (even if they're unemployed). They might be able to find work on their own time; sometimes people need some time away from work so that they can think clearly about what steps need taken next. And if your relationship isn't making either one of you happy anymore (or at all), there's no reason why anyone should stay together just because everyone else does!

Don't take responsibility for their decisions and emotions.

If you're feeling like you're always the one who needs to fix things, then it might be time to take a step back. While it's natural that your partner will come to you for support, and that sometimes they may even expect you to fix their problems or make them feel better, there are boundaries that need to be respected and maintained. If your partner is constantly asking for help with their emotions or decisions when those decisions affect only them, then this could be a sign of poor self-awareness or low self-esteem.

While it can be tempting to do everything in our power for someone we love (especially if they've been hurt), ultimately taking responsibility for another person's happiness should never fall on your shoulders alone—and if it does? That's not healthy!

Don't expect them to change

  • Don't expect them to change, or even acknowledge that they need to.

  • Don't expect them to apologize, or be grateful for what you're doing for them.

  • Don't expect them to be happy for you when your life moves forward in ways they don't approve of.

You can't change someone who doesn't want to change, but you can change how you respond to them.

The best thing you can do for yourself is concentrate on the things that are within your own control. Here are some things to think about:

  • Don't take responsibility for their decisions and emotions

  • Don't make decisions out of guilt or obligation

  • Don't expect them to change

Conclusion

If you feel like your relationship has run its course, that's okay! You deserve to be in a happy and healthy relationship, and if this one isn't getting it done for you, then there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Just make sure not to let guilt or obligation get in the way of your decision making process: if they don't want to change and respect your feelings, then it's time for them to go!

Nicholas Purcell

Nicholas Purcell is a couples counsellor and psychotherapist based in Adelaide, Australia. He works with couples seeking healthy, adult relationship.

http://www.nicholaspurcell.com.au
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