Introduction

If you're in a relationship and your partner has cheated on you, it can feel like an impossible situation. It's natural to feel angry and devastated after such a betrayal, but the first step toward healing is knowing what steps to take next.

Ask yourself if you want to continue the relationship.

Once you have sorted through the facts of what happened, it's time to make some hard decisions. These include whether or not you want to continue with your partner and if so, how do you plan on repairing your relationship?

When making this decision, consider if there is any chance that things can go back to the way they were before. Do they still love me? Is sex between us as good as it used to be? Can I trust them enough not to cheat again in the future? These are all questions that need answering before deciding if you want this person in your life for good or not.

The other thing worth considering is whether or not there was something about your relationship that led up to cheating occurring in the first place. If so then it might be worth working on improving those areas before trying again with someone else.

Consider how long it's going to take before you can trust your partner again.

It's important to consider how long it will take before you can trust your partner again. The severity of the cheating and the circumstances surrounding it will determine how long rebuilding trust takes. If they cheated with someone they've known for a while, or if there were other factors involved (like alcohol use or mental illness), it might take longer than if they had just flirted with someone at work.

Getting back into a relationship after an affair is difficult enough; if you don't know whether or not you can fully trust your partner, it's time to end things for good.

Take care of yourself, and figure out how you want to cope with your emotions.

There's no right or wrong way to feel when you learn that your partner has cheated on you. You may be angry, sad, or even numb. You might have a lot of questions about what happened and what will happen next in your relationship. It's possible that even if your partner is remorseful for their actions, it'll take awhile for trust to return between the two of you. It's also possible that talking through the situation with them will help both parties understand each other better and work toward healing together as a couple—or at least getting past infidelity so that they can move forward together without resentment hanging over their heads constantly (which seems like it would be difficult).

Decide whether or not it's worth giving your partner a second chance.

Decide whether or not it's worth giving your partner a second chance.

Many couples go through this struggle and decide to give their partner a second chance. If you choose this route, be clear about why you're giving them another shot and what the expectations are for the future. You can make sure that things don't happen again by communicating openly with each other about how to handle stressful situations and make sure that each person feels respected.

If you still aren't comfortable with making the decision of whether or not to give your partner another chance, then it's OK not to do so right away. It's important for both parties involved in an affair to feel comfortable before moving forward together in any way."

Give your partner space, if you decide to try repairing the relationship.

If you decide to try repairing your relationship, give your partner space. It's not always easy to do this. You might feel like you want to be there for them in case they need help or advice. But if they're feeling overwhelmed by what happened, they may just want a little time on their own.

In fact, if you ask your partner directly if they want space or not and they say no—that's okay! You don't have the right to force them into anything else because it wasn't your fault that he cheated or broke up with you in the first place (see "How To Take An Inventory Of Your Relationship"). Your job is just make sure he knows how much he means to you by showing him how much effort you've put into making changes within yourself so that next time around things will go better between the two of y'all (see "4 Ways To Keep A Relationship From Falling Apart").

There's no easy way to move forward when someone has betrayed you but by taking time for yourself, being honest about what you're comfortable with, and making the choice that lets you heal, you can find healthy steps forward for you and your relationship.

As you move through the process of deciding what to do next, there are five main things to keep in mind:

• 1. You can decide to stay with your partner or leave. It will likely be a difficult decision for both of you, but it's important that whatever choice you make is one that keeps both of your best interests at heart and allows for healing on both sides.

• 2. You need to be honest with yourself about what is okay for you and what isn't okay in order for this relationship or marriage (or other type of partnership) to work long-term. You also need to make sure that your partner knows how they can help themselves heal from this experience too--and if they're not willing or able then it may indicate some larger issues within the relationship itself which would mean letting go might be better option anyway because there won't be enough time spent working toward change on their end due diligence happening there either way..

• 3/4: Your partner needs room too! They need space where they aren't judged harshly by anyone else right now either because being judged by others makes them feel like an outsider who doesn't belong anywhere anymore which creates even more stressors surrounding those relationships; plus if someone has betrayed their loved ones like this before then odds are pretty good high than nothing has changed so far - but still despite these odds being pretty high it doesn't mean completely giving up hope just yet either since sometimes people do grow up over time (and/or experience life changes).

• 5th: Your feelings matter too! Don't deny yourself any longer than necessary when dealing with something like this because self-care takes precedence over everything else during traumatic times such as these especially since nobody else knows exactly how we feel inside except ourselves - so don’t let others tell us otherwise either!!

Find out why they cheated.

One of the most important things to know is why your partner cheated on you. This will help you understand their actions and may help you decide if this person is worth fighting for.

• If they cheated because they don't love you, then they never really loved you and the relationship was never going to work out. In this case, it's time to move on as quickly as possible so that neither of your hearts are damaged further.

• If they cheated because they're not happy with their life, then perhaps there are some changes that need to be made in order for both of your lives to improve. While this could mean ending the relationship entirely or working hard at fixing it together (depending on what exactly caused them not being happy), either way it could lead somewhere better than where the two of you were before cheating occurred!

• If they cheated because they're not satisfied with how things were going between both parties involved within an intimate relationship dynamic then maybe all hope isn't lost yet! Sometimes people just need space from one another in order for them selves' mindsets change so that when reunited again things might start feeling good again; but only time will tell."

Find out if they have feelings for the other person.

If you’re not sure if they still have feelings for the other person, it’s important to ask them. This can be a hard topic to bring up and can feel awkward, but your partner should be honest with you when answering these questions. If they are still in love with the other person or have strong feelings for that person, no matter what they say or do at this point it will only hurt you more in the end. You need to know where their heart is and if it belongs to someone else before moving forward.

When asking these questions, take note of any signs that show they may be lying or hiding something from you (e.g., not making eye contact). If there are any signs of nervousness during conversation then chances are good that something is going on behind your back!

Understand that actions speak louder than words.

Remember, actions speak louder than words. If your partner is being trustworthy and honest with you, then their words will match their actions. They won't need to hide things from you or lie about what they've done—and if this is the case, you can trust what they're saying.

On the other hand, if someone isn't trustworthy and honest with you, then it's very likely that their words will not match their actions. In this instance, it may be best not to trust anything they say even though it may seem like a perfectly reasonable thing for them to do or say at first glance!

Try and regain trust in your partner.

Your partner has cheated on you, and that is devastating. You may feel like the trust between you is broken forever. But there are things you can do to try and rebuild that trust, even if it takes a long time.

First of all, your partner needs to be completely honest with you about what happened and why they did it. They also need to listen to any questions or concerns that arise from this conversation—and then they need to take responsibility for their actions.

Next, it’s important for both people in a relationship (and especially after an affair) that both partners feel comfortable with each other’s personalities and behavior outside the relationship as well as within it before any attempts at rebuilding trust can begin in earnest; otherwise one person might feel like their partner still hasn’t given them enough space while another might feel too suffocated by those same restrictions imposed upon them by their partner out of fear over whether or not they could ever truly love again after being betrayed so harshly once already

Consider therapy.

If you’re struggling with the fallout of a cheating partner, it might be worth considering therapy. If you don’t know where to start, try finding a mental health professional whose practice focuses on relationships and family issues.

A therapist can help you understand what caused your partner to cheat in the first place and how they were able to rationalize their behavior in their own mind. They might also be able to give you tools for managing your own emotions by helping you identify patterns of thought that contribute towards distrusting them (like assuming they are lying just because they are). They will also help teach new habits like being more mindful when making assumptions about trustworthiness or setting boundaries around infidelity so that it doesn't happen again.

It is possible to repair your relationship, but only if you're both willing to work through it.

It is possible to repair your relationship, but only if you're both willing to work through it. You can't force someone to change, and you can't force someone to love you. If your partner is cheating on you, there's a chance that they will continue doing so unless they have some sort of epiphany or experience that makes them change their behavior and attitudes completely. As much as we may want things like "love" or "commitment" or even "faithfulness" from our partners, these things do not exist without internal motivation from the person in question. You cannot create such motivation for yourself or for someone else; it must come from within them if it's going to be effective at all.

Conclusion

The most important thing for you is to take care of yourself. The next step is to decide whether or not you want to continue the relationship, but know that this will take time and effort from both of you.