How to deal with abandonment issues
Introduction
If you have abandonment issues, it can be difficult to feel like your relationships are solid. You may worry that your partner is going to leave you at any moment, or even that friends or family members will suddenly abandon you. The good news is that you don't have to live with these feelings forever if you start working on them now. This guide will walk through some easy ways for overcoming anxiety about abandonment and feeling more secure in relationships.
Learn to identify your abandonment issues.
Attachment theory is a psychological model that attempts to explain how humans develop and maintain relationships. The theory suggests that there are two types of attachment styles: secure and insecure. An insecure attachment style can lead to abandonment issues, which include both fear of abandonment and the belief that you will never be loved or cared for.
The signs of an insecure attachment style include:
You have trouble trusting others and relying on them for support
You frequently worry about being rejected or abandoned by your partner
You have difficulty getting close to people due to fears about being hurt or betrayed
Explore your abandonment issues in therapy.
If you have abandonment issues, it is important to explore your past and look at your relationships. Are there patterns? Do they relate to a specific issue or person?
A therapist can help you understand how these feelings play out in your current life and where they may be coming from. A therapist can also help you process the emotions that arise when someone leaves or abandons, so that they don't get stuck in the present.
You might be afraid of being left alone because of painful memories from childhood or other times in life when you were abandoned as an adult. A therapist can help resolve those fears and deal with them appropriately so that even if something bad happens again, it won't cause as much distress as before.
Work through the past.
You can't change the past, but you can learn from it. If you're still having trouble moving on, seek out a support group or therapist to help you work through your issues. Talking to a trusted family member or friend is another great way to start making progress. Try forgiving yourself for any mistakes you made—no one is perfect! If possible, try also forgiving your parents for any of their mistakes that may have contributed to the situation
Remember that you are lovable.
Remember that you are lovable.
You are a person of worth, and you deserve to be loved. The people who love you do so because they see the value in you as a person, not for what you've done for them or how much money or power you have (or don't have). You are worthy of being loved by others—and yourself.
Look to friends and family for support.
If you are struggling with abandonment, it is important to reach out to friends and family for support. Your support network can be a great source of encouragement, but it helps if you know how to find them and get the most out of them.
In fact, they may already be there—you just need to identify who they are. For example, if your best friend is someone who has seen you through difficult times before, then he or she may be an excellent person in whom you can confide when experiencing any kind of difficulty or distress.
Another way friends and family members can help with abandonment issues is by providing concrete things for us that seem too big for us alone: taking care of children so we can go on vacation; helping us clean our home after going through a messy breakup; babysitting while we take care of other things (such as going back to school). We do not have time or energy left over after these commitments during which we might think through our feelings!
We should not expect those closest around us always having an answer when we ask questions about why someone would leave such a relationship but rather focus on asking ourselves what part I had in creating this situation myself? Maybe I wasn't being supportive enough? Maybe I was too controlling? Maybe there were other issues between my partner/spouse which were causing conflict so much so that he/she felt like leaving would solve everything (or at least make life better), why did all this happen anyway? What can we do differently next time so nothing like this happens again?" These types thoughts help us learn from their mistakes so that hopefully next time around things go smoother without ending up having another fight because one person feels abandoned by another because they didn’t say “I love you” back
Get help if you have been abused.
If you have been abused, talk to a therapist. They can help you learn how to cope with the negative feelings associated with being abused. You can also find support groups online, or seek help from a friend or family member. If you are in an abusive relationship, get out of it immediately! It is never worth making yourself suffer through abuse just to stay in a relationship.
Focus on your strengths and accomplishments.
There are many ways to deal with abandonment issues. One of the best ways is to focus on your strengths and accomplishments. Many people who have been abandoned will focus on what they lack instead of celebrating their successes. This can lead them down a path of self-pity, where they feel as though they are never good enough and always lack something in their lives. By focusing on your accomplishments and strengths, you can avoid this route which can lead to other problems like depression or anxiety.
Another way to deal with abandonment issues is by not dwelling too much on the past and comparing yourself to others or trying to be like someone else that you admire.
It is important not too compare yourself with others because there will always be someone better than you at something but it shouldn't stop you from being happy with who you are and what your strengths may be
Practice self-care.
One of the most important aspects of dealing with abandonment issues is learning self-care. Self-care is a skill that must be learned and practiced, just like any other. You may have been taught to neglect yourself as a child, or you may have had to lift up others while your own needs were pushed aside. Either way, it’s time to get started on changing this pattern now!
Some ideas for simple self-care activities:
Take a bath with lavender essential oil (or other favorite scents)
Get outdoors for some fresh air and sunlight (parking lots are full of people looking for shade!)
Reach out to someone who makes you feel good about yourself (text them something nice)
Go get coffee with friends or family that support how awesome YOU are!
You can overcome your anxiety about abandonment with these tips.
Understand the cause of your abandonment issues.
Don't let your abandonment issues control you.
Don't let your abandonment issues stop you from trying new things.
Don't let your abandonment issues stop you from having relationships.
Don't let your abandonment issues stop you from being happy
Conclusion
Learning how to overcome your anxiety about abandonment is a process, and it can be a difficult one. But by following these steps, you can start to feel better about yourself and your life as you move forward with the help of your friends and family. You might even find that now that you know what abandonment issues are, they don’t bother you so much after all!
