Nicholas Purcell Psychotherapist

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Why taking responsibility is the the key to being in a healthy mature relationship

Introduction

I'm a firm believer in the value of a healthy, mature relationship. The best ones are built on respect, honesty and trust. If you're looking for the same thing, then it's time to start thinking about taking responsibility for your actions, even if those actions are mistakes that hurt someone else. In any relationship — romantic or otherwise — this is one of the most important skills you can learn.

Taking responsibility for your part in an argument is the fastest way to resolve it.

Taking responsibility for your part in an argument is the fastest way to resolve it. It's also a key part of maturity, because it means you're willing to own up to your mistakes and make amends.

When you take responsibility for the things that annoy or upset your partner, rather than blaming them on external circumstances (like being tired), they can better understand where you're coming from. This helps both sides feel more heard and understood, which is essential for resolving conflict without resentment building up between two people who care about each other but have different ways of communicating their feelings or needs during an argument.

You can't control how other people act--but as long as they know that what they're doing isn't working out well for either side (or all three parties involved), then there's no real reason why anyone should keep doing something that isn't working out well! Instead of letting anger build up inside during an argument over something small like forgetting something important like picking up milk at the grocery store while running errands together one afternoon after work; try taking responsibility by saying something along lines such "I'm sorry hon.. I was running late so I forgot about grabbing some milk before leaving home today."

Being responsible means knowing how to apologize when you mess up, even if it hurts.

Apologizing for something you did wrong is often the hardest part of taking responsibility. It can be hard to admit that you messed up, and even harder to do it in front of someone else who was hurt by your actions. But apologizing is an important step on the path toward maturity, because it shows that you have thought about what happened and have decided to take responsibility for your actions.

In order to apologize well, keep these tips in mind:

  • Don't apologize for being who you are - this isn't about making excuses or blaming others. A good apology focuses on what went wrong and how it could have been avoided (or fixed). It doesn't mean that the other person was right or justified in their feelings; instead, focus on admitting what happened from your point-of-view as opposed to theirs.* Apologize only for things within your control - don't apologize if someone else did something bad or hurtful; accept responsibility only for things within your control (for example: "I'm sorry I didn't respond quickly enough when my partner needed help"). This rule also applies if someone else does something wrong out of ignorance rather than malice (e.,g., accidentally knocking over someone's drink at dinner). In these cases where another person has made an error but still deserves an apology from us anyway*, acknowledge their mistake first before explaining why we feel bad too."

An apology shows maturity, not weakness.

Apologizing is not a sign of weakness, it's a sign of maturity and responsibility. It takes courage to apologize and take responsibility for your actions, but it's the only way to move forward in a healthy relationship.

An apology doesn't have to be long or complicated--you can say "I'm sorry" and leave it at that if you want! But if you want to try out some more elaborate ways of apologizing (which I highly recommend), here are some examples:

  • "I'm sorry I reacted so strongly when we talked about your job offer."

  • "I am regretful over how things went down with our friends last night."

When you're taking responsibility for yourself and your actions, you can spot problems before they arise.

By taking responsibility for yourself and your actions, you can spot problems before they arise. This is because you have the ability to be honest with yourself and others about what's going on in your life. When you're being honest with yourself about who you are and what makes sense for you at this particular point in time, then it becomes easier to spot any potential issues before they even become issues at all!

So if there's something that bothers me about my partner (and let's face it: there always is), I know that instead of trying to ignore those feelings or pretend they don't exist--I can talk about them openly with him so that we can figure out how best deal with whatever issue needs resolving.

You'll build trust with the people around you when you show them that you're willing to own up to your mistakes and make amends when necessary.

Taking responsibility for your actions is one of the most important things you can do in a relationship. It helps build trust with the people around you, and when you show someone that their trust in you is warranted, it makes them more likely to trust again in the future.

Taking responsibility also means being willing to make amends when necessary, which can be difficult if we're not used to doing so or if we've never had anyone teach us how to do so appropriately before. But taking responsibility for ourselves--and sometimes even others--is something every person needs if they want healthy relationships with others who care about them!

Taking responsibility is a sign of maturity in a relationship

Taking responsibility for your mistakes and shortcomings is a sign of maturity, and it can help you build trust with the people around you. When someone apologizes to another person, they are showing that they're mature enough to admit their mistakes and make amends when necessary. This builds up trust among friends, family members, coworkers--pretty much anyone who interacts with each other on a regular basis.

The ability to apologize shows maturity because it's an act of humility; it means admitting that there's room for improvement in yourself or your actions. It also means recognizing when others have been wronged by something that happened under your watch (or even just because someone else was having a bad day). Finally, taking responsibility shows respect toward those affected by whatever happened: if someone else was hurt due to something related directly back towards yourself through no fault but yours alone then admitting this fact will help foster goodwill between everyone involved moving forward after any kind of conflict has been resolved successfully."

Conclusion

Taking responsibility is one of the most important skills you can develop in a relationship. It shows maturity and confidence, as well as respect for the people around you. And when it comes down to it? Taking responsibility just feels good! It's empowering, empowering yourself means feeling less stress and anxiety in life overall