Nicholas Purcell Psychotherapist

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Understanding Cheating and gaslighting

Introduction

Cheating and gaslighting are two different things. Cheating has been around and in relationships since time immemorial. It refers to behaviour that is outside the boundaries of a relationship or marriage, and this often includes sexual or emotional intimacy with another person. However, some people who cheat may not consider it a form of cheating if they don't have feelings for their partners anymore but do have sex with them out of habit or convenience.

Cheating has been around and in relationships since time immemorial.

With the prevalence of cheating and divorce, it's easy to lose sight of the fact that this is a pattern that has been going on for centuries. Cheating has always been around and in relationships since time immemorial. It's an act of betrayal; cheating is not just about sex.

Cheating can be physical, emotional or psychological and/or financial. For example, if you are having an affair with someone who lives outside your neighborhood, but still works in the same industry as you do—that is a form of emotional cheating because you're avoiding your primary relationship in order to pursue something else (and it could also affect your work performance). If your spouse or partner finds out that they're financially supporting their partner while they stay home all day playing video games—this would be another form of financial cheating which could lead to major problems down the road if left unchecked.

Cheating can be physical, emotional or psychological and financial.

  • Cheating can be physical, emotional, psychological and financial.

  • Cheating is when someone in a relationship has sex with another person outside of the relationship.

  • If a partner is having an affair with another person, this is cheating on their part. An affair may also involve lying to your partner about seeing someone else or lying about where you are going when you actually see this other person. You may choose to forgive your partner's infidelity if they are genuinely sorry for what they have done and promise never to repeat it again; however the trust between you will always be damaged by their actions and vice versa for them trusting you after finding out about your own behavior

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that makes you question your own judgment, memory, thoughts and feelings.

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that makes you question your own judgment, memory, thoughts and feelings. It often occurs in the context of one person having power over another (e.g., parents over children).

Signs you are being gaslighted include confusion, feeling like you're going crazy, showing signs of anxiety (e.g., pacing back and forth), and withdrawing from loved ones or activities they used to enjoy. If this sounds like you or someone you know, make sure to reach out for help from someone who can help."

Gaslighting often occurs in the context of one person having power over another.

Gaslighting often occurs in the context of one person having power over another. For example, in a relationship between a supervisor and an employee, gaslighting can occur when the supervisor tries to manipulate their employee into believing that they are not capable or intelligent enough to understand their own actions or beliefs. In this way, gaslighting is used as a means for the supervisor to gain control over their employee by undermining their self-esteem (and sometimes even reality).

A similar dynamic may play out in romantic relationships where one partner has more power than the other due to age, financial status, gender roles or social influence (i.e., friends/family). The abusive partner may use tactics like manipulation and coercion in order to make their significant other doubt themselves so much that they will eventually give up on fighting back against them; this could include things like making threats like "no one else would want someone who couldn't even recognize how awful they were being," discouraging them from seeking support outside of abusive situations such as calling friends/family members who might offer advice on what steps should be taken next if needed."

Signs you are being gaslighted include confusion, feeling like you're going crazy, and withdrawing from loved ones.

There are certain signs to look for. If you're feeling confused, feel like you're going crazy and withdrawing from loved ones, then it's possible that someone is gaslighting you.

Here are some things to keep in mind:

  • The person may actually believe their lies are true and may have convinced themselves of it.

  • You're not alone if you've been gaslighted or someone has accused you of it; this happens all the time in relationships with narcissistic partners who manipulate others into believing their way is right and superior to the other person's opinion.

If you suspect someone is gaslighting you, take note of how they make you feel and what exactly they say to you that makes you feel bad.

If you suspect someone is gaslighting you, take note of how they make you feel and what exactly they say to you that makes you feel bad. Keep a journal of the things that make you feel bad, including when and where it happened, who was involved and why it was hurtful. If possible, write down exactly what they said to do so. And remember: your journal is private! You don't need to show anyone else—you're simply keeping track of their behavior so that if necessary, there's proof of what happened when the time comes.

The person gaslighting you may actually believe they are telling the truth or have convinced themselves the lies are actually true.

The person gaslighting you may actually believe they are telling the truth or have convinced themselves the lies are actually true. It may be that they have a mental illness such as narcissistic personality disorder, sociopathy or even a brain tumor making them delusional. Some research suggests that when it comes to gaslighting, some people are just more susceptible than others because we all have varying levels of self-esteem and self-confidence.

Other times, the person may be using gaslighting as a form of control over you. They may believe what they're saying is true—and if you don't believe them, then maybe you aren't worthy of being with them in their eyes! This is especially common among abusers who use this tactic after an incident where abuse took place; it's one way abusers try to get their victims back into "normal mode" quickly so that abuse can continue without notice by others around them who might otherwise intervene against further abuse later down the road!

You are not alone if you have been gaslighted or if someone close to you has been accused of it.

You may be thinking, "I'm the only one."

That's not true.

You are not alone if you have been gaslighted or if someone close to you has been accused of it. Many people go through this experience every day and suffer from its effects for years afterward, but there is help for both parties. Nobody in the relationship should suffer from abuse ever again.

If you're someone who is being accused of gaslighting a loved one, there is help for both parties here so that nobody in the relationship suffers from abuse ever again.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which the abuser manipulates and distorts information to make the victim doubt his or her own perceptions and memories.

The signs of gaslighting include:

  • Your partner often forgets things you have discussed, including plans you have made together. He may make it seem as if you are being overly sensitive or overly dramatic when you bring up how he has forgotten something important to both of you.

  • He changes the subject when you try to talk about an issue that is bothering either one of you. For example, if your partner says something hurtful or makes a comment that upsets or angers you, he will change the subject by bringing up something else entirely so neither one of them has to deal with what just happened or talk about how they feel because they don't want their feelings hurt again later on down the road (this can be especially true if someone has been abused by someone else before).

Conclusion

We hope you found this article helpful. If you have been gaslighted or if someone close to you has been accused of it, there is help for both parties here so that nobody in the relationship suffers from abuse ever again