Introduction

It can be difficult to determine whether your spouse is cheating on you. Many of the signs are subtle and more easily explained away than they appear. But if you pay attention and know what to look for, it's possible to figure out if your partner is having an affair—and take steps toward making things right again if they are.

You notice changes in their behavior.

You notice changes in their behavior.

If you've been married for a while, you know your spouse's personality and habits intimately. If they are suddenly acting differently--more secretive, irritable or tired; less affectionate; more distracted; defensive--it may be because they are seeing someone else.

They're on their phone a lot.

You should be aware of the habits and patterns of your spouse. If they are on their phone a lot, this could mean that they're cheating on you.

If your spouse is spending more time than usual on their phone, it's possible that they are having an affair or at least thinking about having one.

If your spouse is using their phone during family time, then there is definitely something going on in their life that has nothing to do with you or the kids!

They stop discussing problems with you.

If your spouse is not talking to you about their problems, there could be a few reasons why. They may be keeping secrets from you or they might not want to burden you with their issues. It could also be that they don't trust that whatever information they give will remain between the two of you--and if this is the case then it's likely time for some serious soul searching on both parts.

Your sex life changes.

• Your sex life changes.

If your spouse has been cheating on you, they may be afraid that you will find out and leave them. This can lead to a decrease in sexual activity between the two of you or an increase in time spent apart from each other because one or both of your partners are sneaking around behind your back. If this happens, talk about it! Ask why there has been such a shift in the frequency with which the two of you have sex and see if there are any issues that need resolving between the two of you (for example: are they feeling insecure?).

You feel like something is off, and your gut is telling you something is wrong.

• You feel like something is off, and your gut is telling you something is wrong.

• You can't always explain why you feel that way.

• You may be right, or maybe not--but either way it's worth getting some help from a professional counselor who can help you decide what to do next.

You feel emotionally detached from your spouse.

One of the most obvious signs that your spouse may be cheating on you is if you feel emotionally detached from them. If this is happening, it's important to ask yourself why.

If they are cheating, they may not want to tell you because they don't want to hurt your feelings or because they think it will ruin your relationship (or both). They could also be afraid of losing their job or getting caught by their partner if their affair is discovered.

They start to distance themselves from you and your family.

The first thing you may notice is that they start to distance themselves from you and your family. They don't want to be around you or anyone else in your life. They might not even answer the phone when one of your friends calls, or if they do, it's only because they feel guilty about not returning the call sooner.

If this happens, it could mean that something is going on with them emotionally--they might be depressed or feeling overwhelmed by their responsibilities at work or home and need space from everyone else in order to sort things out on their own without any distractions (and then maybe once they've figured out what's wrong with themselves again). Or maybe there really has been something going on between them and another person who has made them feel important in some way that no one else ever did before; so now instead of prioritizing spending time with their spouse anymore (or even just talking), all their energy gets directed toward seeing this new person even if it means neglecting everyone else who loves them dearly (including us).

They become workaholics.

If your spouse is cheating on you and they are working nonstop, there's a good chance that this is their way of avoiding spending time with you. If they have no time for family or friends and only want to work, then it's a sign that something may be wrong.

If your spouse has become obsessed with work, it could be because he or she wants an excuse not to spend time with his or her partner anymore. This can also be an indication of other issues such as depression or anxiety problems that need further attention if left untreated over time

They begin to have financial issues.

Financial problems can be a sign of infidelity. This does not mean that your partner will suddenly start spending money on luxury items, or travel to exotic locations, but it's possible that they might. If you notice that your spouse has been spending an unusual amount of money on things that don't seem necessary for the household or family, there could be something going on behind your back.

Spending more than usual on luxury items could be an indication that he or she is trying to keep up appearances with other people in order to hide his/her true intentions from you and others around him/herself (e.g., friends).

They're frequently late getting home (or out) with no explanation as to why.

If your spouse is frequently late getting home (or out), it could be because they're cheating on you.

If they have no explanation as to why they are late, this can be a sign that they are spending more time with their lover than with you. When someone is having an affair, they often try to keep up appearances so that other people don't suspect anything is wrong in the relationship between themselves and their partner. As a result, if your spouse suddenly starts being more punctual when coming home at night or when going on outings with friends and family members then there may be something else going on behind closed doors that should be investigated further by both parties involved before things get out of hand!

It's always best to let your spouse explain whatever appears to be going on rather than jumping to conclusions, but if they don't or you still aren't sure whether they're cheating, it may be wise to talk with a counselor, who may be able to help you sort out what's going on and decide what to do about it together.

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Conclusion

As we've discussed, there are plenty of reasons why your spouse might be cheating on you. But if you're still unsure whether they are or not, it's important to remember that there is no one-size-fits-all solution. If you feel like something isn't right in your relationship and want help figuring out what it could be, then consider talking with a counselor or therapist who can help guide the process.