Nicholas Purcell Psychotherapist

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Five Important Questions To Ask Before You Have An Affair

Introduction

Affairs are an extremely serious matter. Even when you're sure that you want to act on your attraction to someone else, there are many things to consider before making any decisions. If you don't know whether it's right for you, it might be a good idea to ask yourself these questions:

Why do I want to have an affair?

Why do I want to have an affair? This is a good question to ask yourself, because you need to understand why you want an affair before you can decide if it's the right thing for you. An affair can be a symptom of a bigger problem in your relationship, or it could simply be something that happened without much thought. If either scenario applies to your situation, then having an affair may not fix anything at all--and it could even make things worse!

How will it affect my family?

If you're considering having an affair, it's important to consider how your family and friends will be affected. For example:

  • How will it affect my children? If you have kids, think about how they might feel if their parent had an affair. Do they know about the other person in the relationship (and if so, how much)? Have they seen them together in public places like restaurants or parks? Will this new person become part of their lives on a regular basis or only during special occasions like holidays and vacations?

  • How will it affect my partner/spouse/partner-in-crime? A lot of people who cheat on their spouses claim that they did so because their spouse wasn't giving them enough attention or affection--but when we look at those same couples after they've had affairs and gotten back together again (or not), there usually isn't any improvement in either partner's behavior toward one another! So instead of worrying about whether or not someone else could give us more than our current partner does right now (which is unlikely), maybe focus instead on making sure YOU are getting everything YOU need from YOUR current relationship before trying anything else out there...

Will it harm me physically?

You don't have to be married or in a relationship to get pregnant. Having sex with someone who has a sexually transmitted disease (STD) can also lead to complications and even death.

If you're considering having an affair, it's important that both of you are tested for STDs before having sex. If either one of you has an STD, talk about how safe it would be for both of you if each partner were treated and retested before continuing with the relationship in question.

Will it damage my friendships?

If you're considering having an affair, it's important to consider how it could affect your friendships.

Your friends will be hurt if they find out about the affair--and even more so if they think that their relationship with you is damaged beyond repair. They may even feel like they've been led on or misled by what seemed like an honest friendship between the two of them. Your friends may also become angry with you for lying or betraying their trust in some way. If word gets around that you've been cheating on your significant other with someone from work (or anywhere else), this can have a negative effect on how everyone views that person as well as the entire group of people who are associated with him or her in some way (i.e., his coworkers).

What would happen if this got out?

If this were to get out, what would happen?

What are the consequences of being caught? Would you lose your job or be sued by your spouse? Do they have a criminal record that could land them in jail and destroy their reputation forever, or do they have an ongoing relationship with their partner's family that would make things difficult for everyone involved if it became public knowledge? Are there children involved who might suffer as well (and if so, how)?

How will my friends react if they find out about my affair? Will I still be able to keep all of my relationships intact after this comes out in the open--and if not, why not?

You need to think about your relationship before making any decisions.

Before you have an affair, it's important to ask yourself some questions. These questions will help you decide if having an affair is the right choice for your relationship and whether or not it would be worth it in the long run.

What are the pros and cons?

First, think about what could go wrong if you were to have an affair with someone else. What would happen if this person found out about your intentions or if he/she did not feel the same way about you? How would this affect both parties involved? Would there be any legal consequences or repercussions from other sources (family members, friends)? Consider all aspects of this scenario before making a decision either way!

How will my partner react when they find out?

You should also consider how your partner might react if they found out that something like this had occurred--would they be hurt by it? Would they blame themselves for not being able to satisfy your needs sexually in order for all parties involved within this situation being happy together forevermore without any problems whatsoever occurring between them ever again afterwords due mostly due

Conclusion

The bottom line is that you need to think about your relationship before making any decisions. If you're considering having an affair, make sure it's worth the risk and that there isn't some other problem in your relationship that needs fixing first.