Nicholas Purcell Psychotherapist

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5 Things You Have to Know About Insecurities In Relationships

Introduction

Insecurities are an unavoidable part of life. No matter how confident or secure we feel, everyone has something about themselves that they worry about and wish were different. But when those insecurities get in the way of a relationship, it can be hard on both sides and cause more problems than just bad feelings. Here are five things you need to know about dealing with your own insecurities — and your partner's:

Insecurities are deeply rooted in childhood.

Insecurities are a normal part of being human, but they can be deeply rooted in childhood. If you find that your partner has a lot of insecurities, it's likely that they learned them from their parents or other people around them when they were young. Insecurities can also be learned from one's own experiences as well. For example, if you were bullied at school for being overweight or shy as a child then this may have made it difficult for you to grow up feeling confident about yourself as an adult (and so on).

In order to overcome these kinds of issues we need to understand why our partner has these kinds of feelings towards themselves and then work together on changing those perceptions together through therapy sessions or just by talking things through openly with each other regularly throughout each day over coffee cups full of hot chocolate while watching Netflix shows together at night after work hours end!

Insecurities often aren't rational.

Insecurities in relationships are often irrational. When we feel insecure, it's usually because of something that happened in the past that made us feel like we were less than someone else or not good enough. But it can also be because of things that aren't even true--like believing that your partner is going to leave you because they're attracted to someone else (even if they've never done anything inappropriate).

Insecurities often arise from people projecting their own insecurities onto others and then assuming those projections are true. They may blame their partners for having certain qualities or behaviors (like being flirtatious) when those qualities or behaviors actually belong solely with themselves: "I'm jealous because I'm afraid he'll cheat on me." Or: "My girlfriend gets jealous when I talk about other women at work because she knows I'm only interested in her." In this case, both parties have valid reasons for feeling insecure--but neither one needs to act upon those feelings by acting out negatively towards each other!

You can't control someone else's insecurity.

You can't control someone else's insecurity.

You might think that by changing your behavior or body language, you can make your partner feel better about themselves and thus help them overcome their insecurities. But the truth is that no matter what you do or say, there will always be some aspect of yourself that they find unattractive--and it's up to them to deal with their own issues instead of blaming them on you!

If they are too insecure in the relationship, then it may be time for both of you to part ways before things get worse and one person ends up feeling like they're not good enough for another person because their significant other is constantly making them feel inadequate with negative comments about themselves when all along it was really just an issue between two people who weren't right together anyways."

You can find ways to deal with your own insecurities so you don't hurt the relationship.

So, what do you do if your partner's insecurities are causing problems?

First, make a list of your own insecurities. What makes you feel insecure? Are there certain things that trigger these feelings? Is it something specific about yourself or is it something more general (like not feeling good enough)? What are the reasons behind those insecurities? Next, write down how these feelings affect your behavior and interactions with others. Finally, think about how you can deal with these issues so they don't interfere with your relationships--and then talk to someone who knows what they're talking about: Your partner!

If you're feeling insecure, you need to talk about it.

Insecurities are a natural part of human life. They're a part of being human, and they're not something to be ashamed of. It's important to remember that you can't control other people's insecurities--you can only control your own. That said, if you feel insecure about something in your relationship with someone else, it is absolutely crucial that you talk about it with them!

Insecurity is one of those things that can lead to resentment over time if left unaddressed or unexpressed. If there are things that make you feel uncomfortable or insecure about your partner (or maybe even just feeling like something isn't quite right), then talking about them will help clear up any misunderstandings between the two of you before they become bigger issues later on down the road (and trust me: they will!).

We all have insecurities, but they can be managed so that they don't hurt our relationships with others

Insecurities are part of the human experience. We all have them, and they can be managed so that they don't hurt our relationships with others.

  • Talking about your insecurities is the best way to manage them.

  • Dealing with your insecurities head-on is another good way to manage them.

  • Finding ways to deal with your insecurities is another great way to keep them under control

Conclusion

We all have insecurities, but they can be managed so that they don't hurt our relationships with others. It's important to remember that you can't control someone else's insecurity and you shouldn't try. You also shouldn't let your own insecurities cause damage to your relationship; instead, find ways to deal with them so that both of you feel comfortable being open about them without fear of judgment from each other.