Nicholas Purcell Psychotherapist

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10 Ways to Prevent Infidelity in your Marriage

Introduction

Infidelity is one of the most common reasons that marriages end. If you suspect your partner is cheating, you may be wondering how to prevent it from happening again. Infidelity can be a very difficult problem to deal with, but here are some steps you can take if you want to save your marriage:

1. Communicate

The first step to preventing infidelity in your marriage is to communicate effectively. Do you know how to do that? If not, don't worry--we'll get there!

There are many ways in which couples can communicate more effectively:

  • Talking about their feelings openly and honestly (and not just when things are going well)

  • Spending quality time together

  • Understanding each other's needs and wants better by asking questions and listening carefully

2. Make time for each other.

  • Make time for each other.

One of the best ways to prevent infidelity is by spending quality time with your partner, whether it's going out on a date or just having fun at home together. If you want your marriage to last, then make sure that you are not allowing work or other commitments get in the way of your relationship with each other!

3. Seek professional help if you need it.

  • Seek professional help if you need it.

There are many reasons why people seek marriage counseling, but one of the most common is infidelity. If your spouse has been unfaithful in the past and you're worried about their behavior repeating itself, or if they have shown signs that could be an indication of an affair (e.g., coming home late from work), then seeking out a licensed therapist may be a good idea for both parties involved in order to prevent future occurrences from occurring again in the future!

4. Be honest with yourself and your partner.

  • Be honest with yourself and your partner.

Honesty is the best policy in any relationship, but it's especially important when it comes to preventing infidelity. If you're not honest about how you feel or what's going on in your life, then there's no way for either party to know what the other person needs from them or how they can help each other out. This can lead to resentment and anger--and if one person feels like they aren't getting what they need from the other person, then they might look elsewhere for fulfillment (or even just an emotional connection).

It may seem obvious that being honest with each other is necessary for trust and communication between partners--but many people still lie about their feelings or try to hide certain aspects of their lives because they assume their partner would disapprove if he/she knew everything about them! Don't make assumptions; instead use open, honest communication as an opportunity show love rather than fear by sharing both good news and bad news without judgmental attitudes toward each other's choices

5. Don't say things to your partner that you wouldn't say to a friend or a stranger.

  • Don't say things to your partner that you wouldn't say to a friend or a stranger.

  • Don't use swear words or insults.

  • Don't say things that are hurtful or offensive.

  • Don't say things that are mean, rude, sarcastic (or any other negative word).

6. Don't roll your eyes or laugh when your partner is speaking, or cross your arms in front of them as if you are being intentionally defiant.

  • Don't roll your eyes or laugh when your partner is speaking, or cross your arms in front of them as if you are being intentionally defiant.

  • Don't say things to your partner that you wouldn't say to a friend or a stranger.

7. When the conversation is over, let it be over unless there is more to say of great importance that absolutely cannot wait until the next time you speak again.

  • When the conversation is over, let it be over unless there is more to say of great importance that absolutely cannot wait until the next time you speak again.

If you find yourself bringing up the same topic multiple times in one day or week, chances are good that what's really on your mind isn't so much about what was said but instead an opportunity for validation from your spouse. If this is the case--if your husband/wife keeps saying no and still won't give in--then ask yourself why? What does he/she have against doing what would make YOU happy?

8. Remember what it felt like when you fell in love and try to continue to feel that way even if you don’t necessarily act that way all the time.

  • Remember what it felt like when you fell in love and try to continue to feel that way even if you don't necessarily act that way all the time.

Remembering the good times, reasons why you fell in love and how good it felt when you were in love will help keep the love alive even when it's hard or things seem hopeless.

9. Maintain an open-minded attitude (yes, even if he or she is wrong!) so that you can objectively see things from both sides and hopefully make decisions together instead of fighting about things all the time.

In order to maintain an open-minded attitude, you must be willing to consider all points of view. This is especially important when it comes to differences in opinion or way of doing things. For example, if your partner wants to go on a trip with friends and you don't want him or her to go because it will make him/her late for work the next day, try not only considering why he/she wants this trip so much but also what would happen if he/she didn't get enough sleep because he stayed up late partying with his friends.

It's also important not just be open about what other people say but how they say it as well! For example: If someone tells me my hair looks nice today but then adds "but could use some color," instead of taking offense at their comment about my lack of color (or even just being offended by their tone), I try instead focusing on what exactly was said first--that is, "your hair looks nice today."

10. Most importantly, remember why you fell in love with this person in the first place and keep those memories alive so that they can comfort each other when times get tough and nothing else makes sense anymore!

You may be wondering what the point is of remembering all of this. After all, if your partner is going to cheat on you anyway, what's the point of trying to stop them?

Well first off, no one wants to get cheated on. So even if they do end up doing it anyway, at least they won't have ruined your marriage completely! And second--and most importantly--remembering why you fell in love with this person in the first place can help keep both of you motivated when times get tough and nothing else makes sense anymore!

It may be possible to save your marriage after infidelity but it isn't easy, so make sure you're communicating with each other before things get too bad!

It may be possible to save your marriage after infidelity but it isn't easy, so make sure you're communicating with each other before things get too bad!

  • Communicate with each other.

  • Make time for each other.

  • Seek professional help if you need it (i.e., counseling). It's important to know that no one can fix a relationship except the two people in it--but sometimes having another person involved can help both parties communicate better and get them back on track towards healing together as a couple instead of apart or away from each other entirely.

  • Be honest with yourself and your partner about what happened and how those events have affected both of you individually as well as collectively within your marriage or partnership; don't say things that aren't true just because they'll make someone feel better about themselves/the situation at hand either internally or externally (i.e., "I'm sorry"/"I love him/her so much").

Conclusion

If you are struggling with infidelity in your marriage, it's important that you talk about it with your partner. The first step is always communication, but if things get too bad then seek professional help immediately. You don't want this situation to get any worse than it already is!